Live YOUR Life by Kia

Before you read Kia’s blog, I just want to say one quick thing.  Friday January 29th at 3:42pm I posted a blog on my site called “Can You Live Out Your Dreams?”  At 3:48 pm the same day I received a blog submission from a guest blogger “Kia” called live your life.  You have probably read Kia’s prior entry “Happy New Year” which she explains how you should be willing to make a resolution any day of the year, not just January 1^st.  The irony of this is how similar my blog I published January 29^th is to the one she submitted 6 minutes later.  I have four words; great minds think alike.

Disclaimer: This is my own personal rant, just tired of people telling me how I should live.

So it has been happening to me my whole life and I’m sure I’m not alone in this.  Have you ever had a conversation with someone and they go on and on about what you should be doing with your life and how you should be living and what your goals should be?  If you listen to them long enough you will realize that they are trying to make their dreams yours.

I lead a very simple life compared to most, but it makes me happy. I have my own mortgage, my baby Miss Nina Simone (the dog), a car, a job that I love waking up too and THE BEST FAMILY IN THE WORLD! I don’t NEED much else but of course there are things I WANT, but for me as long as my NEEDS are met I have the patience to know my WANTS fall into place all in HIS time.

Everyone has a place in this world and a job to do; everyone can’t be a leader someone has to follow them.  The star of the show needs support in order to be great. Martin needed Coretta, Malcolm needed Betty, and Barack needs Michelle; none of these men would be great if they didn’t have a support system.  These are all phenomenal women in their own right but they know their role as a supporter brought out more than them trying to be the star.  In the movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” the mother tells the daughter, the man may be the head but the woman is the one who supports the head and turns it in the right direction! Just think when you have a stiff neck how hard it is to turn your head without your whole body picking up the slack of ONE body part acting up.

I look at myself as a great support person, I like the details and the ins and outs of how things work, sometimes the big picture escapes me.  I don’t want to be nor do I like being the star or center of attention. I’m the person behind the curtain beaming as my good work is presented the rest of the world.  So is it wrong that I don’t want to be out in front? Should we teach our children the only way to succeed is to be out in front and running the show? What if this never happens for them are they a failure?  I’m not saying we shouldn’t strive to be the best, but be the best at something YOU LIKE! Don’t go to college if you would be happy being an electrician, go to trade school and get all the licenses and knowledge needed to be the best electrician.

Education has always been important in my family and learning is my hobby, we have a ton of teachers, PhD’s and stuff, but my great-uncle who got his doctorate after he was 60 said, if you’re gonna go to school get something out of it, me, I got an MBA.  Not because I wanted a better job or to make more money, but because I was bored and need something to do after my day job.  I have my MBA in Financial Planning, because that’s what I LIKE, yes I work in the field but not doing what people think I should be doing.  Yes I could probably be making a lot more money, but I wouldn’t be happy in the job and my happiness is far more important than money; so imagine the stares I get working in an industry where money is the driving force and I could care less about it.

All day I hear about getting to the next level, well when do you reach the top and if you never get there what happens?  There is nothing wrong with being happy where you are as you work toward other goals.  My goals may seem simple to most, but they are MINE, just as you have yours.  Who am I to say you shouldn’t want to do something because I don’t like or understand it.

My point in all of this is don’t let anyone tell you what should make you happy, we are not all alike, we don’t all like the same things, what makes me happy doesn’t work for anyone but me.  If someone is happy, be happy for them; don’t tell them they should want something else because you can’t find joy in your situation.  As much as people try to be individuals they seem to end up being more alike than they realize.

Thanks for reading

DJR and Kia

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